The rise of the pants police

Maybe it’s too big, maybe it’s too small, maybe it’s too average or you don’t have one at all.

Maybe you don’t dress right. Your hair’s too long or short. Maybe you like women or nothing of the sort.

The pants police are coming. They’re coming for us all. They’ll use a complex trait or two, to shove us to the wall.

Almost all human traits are complex traits. They don’t act like a switch being on or off. They are more like a bell curve. The average trait is what most people have but being outside of the middle of the curve is perfectly normal. An example would be height.” People are not 3 inches tall or three miles tall, but they do show variation in height. Likewise, sexual expression and interest is a complex trait.

Recently, a sweet child wanted to have an adult conversation about the election.

“Donald Trump is mean but Kamala Harris wanted men to play women’s sports,” the child said. “So, people had two poor choices.”

I was surprised that the trans issue was one they focused on, but I shouldn’t have been. The Trump campaign spent over 200 million dollars on anti-trans ads. The complexities of the issue have been explained on many levels. Yet the campaign didn’t care to pass this on to the public.

The White House’s definition of two genders as “a person belonging, at conception, to the sex that produces the large reproductive cell [or] a person belonging, at conception, to the sex that produces the small reproductive cell” has been called wrong and simplistic. It’s outdated and some in high places want to keep the outdated ideas.

Many animals can be both sexes and can have a fluid sexual attraction. The whole notion of binary sexuality is only one form of normal. Why would anyone care? Clearly, this is paving the way to look into our pants and apply discrimination.

Women have no explicit constitutional rights. Furthermore, Christian Nationalists have a limited view of equality and autonomy.

When you discriminate against a group, you can pay them less and even get free work out of them. Yes, highlighting differences and even saying they are natural can produce a whole underpaid underclass. One example would be saying women are naturally better at housework and taking care of kids and then paying less for these services, not paying at all, and not even recognizing this as useful work. One time women were told they didn’t have brains for complex thoughts, but science didn’t support this. Still, the gender pay gap persists. You can see how bad it is in your area here. We are seeing discrimination in search of a target. Discrimination needs to be able to easily sort us into male and female.  Hence, the pants police and their partners, the book police. Maybe they will sort us further, based on our genitals or some other arbitrary look -or as scientists say “phenotype.”  

 We even work against nature in our society. Throughout history, dressing like a woman has been harmful to health. In  a gender-biased human society, women spend much more time grooming because they need to look like they will accept pain in order to get male approval. We even have a “conservative bad make-up” trend that’s easy to spot and doesn’t look great close up. In fact, it’s based on pageantry and can be easily replicated for drag shows. It’s part of the reason people go to drag shows and pay for it—the pageantry and recognition that gender roles are kind of funny. Maybe drag shows will be banned as well.

In most species, it’s the males who need to preen and look pretty. Why do we think it’s how human women should look?  Women are supposed to have kids, run after them, clean the house, and gob on drag-show level make-up. The animal world is laughing at us.

When moms turn bad

I had a great Mother’s Day. My family is amazing. But I can’t help be a little disturbed about what “Mother” is coming to mean these days. Have you noticed all the women and politicians who are playing their Mom card when they do mean things to other women? “I’m a mom and I want to regulate your pregnancy.”

It really doesn’t matter if you are a mom, a grandma or whatever. Those labels don’t get you off the hook for your misogyny. Misogyny, hatred of women, runs deep. 

Women have faced so much oppression that naturally, some seek refuge in being misogynists themselves for their own safety. This link points out the numerous forms of female misogyny, some of which I have no doubt embraced at a point in my life. Certainly, we can have different opinions. But let’s face it, betrayal and denial of autonomy, is the ultimate crime against women. At its core, misogyny takes away choices and sadly, some females are more than happy to take away the choices of others.

Take a moment to read about the hellscape Idaho has become for women of childbearing age. The idea that you and your doctor can’t make pregnancy decisions is a blatant form of misogyny. Why do females subscribe to these views? The answer is: we’ve all been indoctrinated into a society that devalues women. Some of us may have been mean girls. We may have gotten our promotion but kept other women down. Maybe we’ve felt that a capable woman didn’t deserve a leadership position. Maybe, like Queen Victoria, we’ve disparaged feminists, because we are good girls, worthy leaders, and they are bad.

 Let’s not forget that the Nazis treasured motherhood and gave women gold crosses for having kids. Lots of women loved this and were Hitler fans because it gave them a purpose and a justification for being and a godly reward for their piety and submission to their husbands. Not to be too graphic here but these women let others be shot and lead to the gas chambers in order to make themselves feel good about their lives. That’s how bad women have it. They kill for respect. Some women who have low self-esteem and have been abused even find serial killers of women sexually appealing.

Yes, women are misogynists. They even hate themselves. Hatred of women rubs off. I don’t think many can escape it. Now it seems, we have a whole crop of female politicians and Supreme Court justices who are here to support the devaluation of female life. It’s getting to be too much. Doctors won’t put up with this unhealthy, inhumane behavior.Heck, normal people won’t either. But misogyny is sneaky and takes many disguises. The most recent is to pretend to be a gynomorph. 

The gynomorph, combining male and female characteristics, has always had a certain allure. Think David Bowie, who has recently had a gynomorph lobster named after him. Many of us love unisex fashionunisex fragrance, and gender neutral baby names. In the past, Bacchus, the ancient god of ecstasy, has been portrayed as a gynomorph. The gynomorph is powerful, but it’s being used for unsavory ends that betray the whole concept.

Here is a modern-day interpretation of a gynomorph. It’s a female but a tough woman with a gun down there to represent her “masculine side.” How many political ads have we seen like this? The far-right, guns, and misogyny go hand in hand.Easy access to guns is part of a misogynist’s toolbox. Mass shootings and misogyny are buddies.  Misogynists are more likely to be violent.  Yes, misogyny is the gateway for violence. Despite this, politicians, including female politicians, glorify violence in their advertisements. Most of these violent types claim the label of mom. Exposure to violence is bad for kids by the way. 

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If you think about it, a woman who is willing to define and betray her sisters and/or who embraces violence, is a warped evil gynomorph, embracing the male art of betraying females and being a violent misogynist. Gynomorphs are supposed to be symbols of unity. Too bad this symbol is being used for false purposes by politicians.

It’s difficult for women to get ahead without some form of gynomorphism. It might be brandishing a gun, drinking men under the table, or most blatantly, making laws targeted at other women. I wish I had a dollar for every man who said positive things about women who hold the very same views as misogynistic men. These false gynomorphs are reversing women’s rights and obediently doing everything misogynic men would love, as this person points out so clearly. 

And don’t forget—the new false gynomorphs are wives, mothers, and grandmothers. In case you didn’t know, their biographies, group names, and they will tell you. They want you to believe that what they stand for is what a normal woman would do. Well, I’m a mother too and I don’t like what they have brought us–women airlifted to abortion friendly states to save their lives or tossing doctors in jail for example. And let’s not forget some of the things the man they endorse for president has said about women. Claiming that infanticide is a thing is blatant misogyny—it’s aimed at taking away rights. Terrorizing women is the goal of misogyny. 

There are “moms” who support the assault on information both in the forms of library bans (claiming some sort of knowledge about books harming children)  and bad mouthing public schools—because censoring and ignoring other opinions is a sign of these control freak moms married to control freak men who lose their cool. It’s sad to say but their kids will suffer—struggling to make choices and exhibiting low self-esteem. Maybe that’s the way they like it. 

There is nothing wrong with a woman being strong, decisive, informed, a scientist, a rugby player, a Jezebela homemaker, or even liking target practice. Several people in my family are good shots. There’s nothing wrong with protecting children.

One beef I have with these evil gynomorphs is the way they downplay the expertise of other women and their advocates (such as OBGYNS) as if there are only so many seats at the table. Another problem comes when they deny autonomy to others, because autonomy is at the heart of happiness. Having autonomy in life choices is key to adolescent happiness. It makes for a better workplace. Lack of autonomy is why traditional roles can be stifling and it’s why, people are drawn to the power of the gynomorph.

A gynomorph should be a unifying symbol, a fun way of celebrating inclusivity. Sadly, those masquerading as a gynomorph want to take away the choice and self-expression of others. Women, let’s stop killing each other, and our pets, to try to get self-respect. And please, stop labeling hate groups with the word “mom”. It’s truly degrading.